The Rising Phoenix

Image Curtesy:  https://yourteenmag.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/03/Depositphotos_31641411_l-2015.jpg The wounds heal, the scars become fainter and fainter and the pain becomes almost like a passing thought. You start to think that maybe the light at the end of the tunnel is near...however, the biggest challenge is yet to come: to face the harsh and judgmental reactions of the people around you. They can be your parents, your partners, your siblings, friends or even strangers. We can dream of a Eutopia where no one will judge us for our past and will take our struggles for what they are, however, most often than not that is not the case. And people react, without thinking about u or sometimes not thinking at all. This is not to say that they are bad people, they mean ill or that we are saints, It is a human folly after all and who is to say,  we might have reacted similarly for someone else in some other situation and not have realized it. But today, lets talk about how to deal...

                                     Image Curtesy:  https://www.pinerest.org/media/Trap-of-Self-Harm.jpg “In case you didn't know, dead people don't bleed. If you can bleed-see it, feel it-then you know you're alive. It's irrefutable, undeniable proof. Sometimes I just need a little reminder.” ―  Amy Efaw,  After The relief is palpable when u cut, punch , burn.... you can finally breathe again, stop thinking for just that one single blessed moment, feel free and in control.... and the next moment you realize you might have taken it too far. The bleeding doesn't stop, the bruises keep spreading, the burn doesn't heal and then you panic. Although self harmers are often aware of the limits, there are times when the control is lost or the blade slips just a little too much, the punches become a little too hard. So today, let us talk about what home remedies you can u...

  Your child, your partner, your cousin, your friend- it is a very surreal experience when you find a loved one self harming. You feel lost, angered, maybe even feel pity for the person and most often than not, you feel at a loss so as to how to respond. Today, let us discuss a little bit about this experience. The worst thing that can happen is if you react in an offensive manner. Parents most often than not fall into this category. Their concern explodes as a wave of anger. To a self harmer, it looks like a rejection and a realization of their worst fears. No matter how estranged you are from them, there is still more often than not a feeling in every child to be accepted by his/her parents. And when you react in an explosive manner, it often pushes them away from you further, they feel as if you are not even trying to understand and that they are alone in their suffering. This leads to them getting depressed further and increases their self harming tendencies except now, they ar...

Image Curtesy of:  data:image/jpeg That moment of time when you feel the sharp edge of the blade against your skin... The momentary hesitation ... bracing yourself for the sting before you move your hand decisively, the metallic scent of blood filling your senses as you watch the bright red liquid bubble to the surface and for that one moment you feel .... At peace. As sensational and thrilling as this sounds, the high unfortunately only lasts for a short moment of time after which .... You need more.. it starts as a one off , where you scoff at the possibility of not being able to stop yet soon find yourself yearning for more yet being unsatisfied every single time, needing more and more till you just cant see an end. And then comes the shame, the doubts and the self hate as every single day, the scars remind you of your weakness, taunt you about how they will never let you forget this dark time for years, maybe even for your whole life... You see them, you hate them yet the next ...

Image Curtesy:  https://encrypted-tbn0.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcSOc1zAsOVXcb1Dguqlv5RlitAWwZV6uG8mvw&usqp=CAU The Indian Society in itself is a very conservative one, we as a whole have grown up in an environment which thinks depression is just a cry for attention and self harm is some unspeakable family secret that just cannot be addressed. That however does not stop more and more people, especially the youngsters from attempting it, getting addicted to it and then being unable to get any help for it. So let us first start by understanding what exactly is self harm. Self harm is something that cannot very well be defined but most people would say it refers to voluntarily inflicting harm on your person. This may include cutting, burning, hitting or any other way to cause yourself pain. Now, as a rule, most people refer to the physically manifested injuries, however even mental pressures, putting yourself down, beating yourself up for the smallest of things, over-analyzing...